Anonymous Vigil Plan
If you are visiting me, conducting vigil or here to take care of me, please do your best to follow these elements of my vigil plan.
-To help create a sacred space, please remove your shoes as you enter the bedroom.
-Ask me if I'd like it to be quiet or if I'd like you to read to me or talk to me.
-The night table lamp should be covered with a blue scarf.
-Have a lavender scented candle burning on the dresser.
-Keep medical supplies stored in a different room until they are required.
-I’ve collected my favorite photos and placed them on the dresser. Please keep fresh flowers in the vase in front of them.
-Feel free to read to me from my book of travels that’s on the nightstand.
-Welcome my dog into the room and onto my bed if he’s interested.
-Feel free to slide your hand under mine, please don’t touch my feet.
-Encourage my partner to rest next to me in bed.
-Talk to me about seeing a beautiful white light and entering it and letting go of my body when I’m actively dying.
-If possible, please wheel me outside to be in the fresh air, or open a window to let in the air.
-Play music from the CD’s I’ve placed by the player. If it’s something we’ve shared together, choose it!
-Say whatever comes straight from your heart.
Creating a sense of control for final days, the Vigil Plan is a flexible document that is created by the person who is dying with the guidance of their EOL Doula.